Why women’s weight loss is not a man’s game.

By March 24, 2017 No Comments

Apple to Oranges.

Women are different to men.

We think differently.

Our bodies are different.

So why wouldn’t our journey to health, fitness and weightloss be different to?

Now, I want to first point out that I like men, I live with a small one who one day will be a big one and I am doing my best to make sure he is a good one.  I am currently working with a male personal trainer and I am not undermining the knowledge, experience and motivations of male personal trainers and weightloss specialists but I honestly believe that women’s weightloss is not a man’s game,  even for part of their journey, for additional support when working with male fitness and health professionals and in that weightloss is not just a direct correlation of one thing or one person’s influence over another.

And here is my case:

The Female Mind

We worry, we overthink and we worry some more.

One of our biggest worries is injury and the pain/gain ratio.  The ‘is this really worth it’ question. Am I going to be able to function in my every day life? Can I get through the day? Will I have the energy to keep going?

Add into the mix children and it becomes even more heightened.

Unlike men, we do not subscribe to the No Pain, No Gain philosophy willingly or at all.

The ability to withstand pain is not a skill we value, because we already know we can- if we have to. But we would just prefer to avoid it rather than use it as a mantle to define ourselves.  I believe strength for us is not defined in how much pain we can withstand, but in overcoming our struggles and simply getting back up again when we fall or stumble.

Additionally, men have a myopic, linear focus when it comes to achieving goals, whereas women think more systematically, which means we can focus on many things at the same time with many priorities and values.  The male mindset makes it easier for men just to ‘get it done’ or ‘push through’, but can often come with excessive or unnecessary force to achieve things, not evaluating all the consequences or where things might go pear-shaped later down the line.

Women tend to be more strategic in their thinking and want to be efficient, whilst being effective in what they do as they know they have so many other demands on their time.  An injury is just not worth it for the impact it would have on their WHOLE life. This is not a cop out or excuse.  It is reality. Again, a man might see if that way.

This mindset can something hamper a woman’s progress if the trainer or fitness professional is not empathetic to it or just railroads this way of thinking rather than understanding and motivating in other ways.

One of my greatest fears when I first started working out with a trainer was always that my thoughts and feelings wouldn’t be heard, understood or acted upon and that I would be made to do something that I didn’t want to or that may cause me pain.

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Our lack of confidence in our strength

Lack of confidence and underestimation of strength and moving out of their comfort zone in terms of exercising keeps ladies turning to excessive aerobic exercise.  This comes in all forms (spin classes, dance classes, yoga classes or running) and not just limited to hours spent on the treadmill or bike. If you go to the gym for a workout and emerge two hours later after a spin class and 45 mintues on the bike then this is excessive cardio.  If you plan on giving the weight machines a go but end up on the treadmill all night this is excessive cardio. Working on 17 different gym machines over 2 hours with minimum weights is also excessive cardio.

[Related article: Worst exercise for women over 35 and what to do instead]

Fear of not being strong enough, fit enough, slim enough or confident enough to swap cardio exericse for lifting weights is one of the biggest issues keeping ladies overweight, out of shape, with lower back pain or knee pain and just plain ole frustrated with their bodies.

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Women often lack confidence when it comes to strength training and often underestimate their strength by 10% and lose out on making their workouts more effective.

Ironically, men often overestimate their strength but even up to 10% lifting and throwing down heavy weights as they puff out their chests, basically Bravado.

Even more ironic to me is that women have higher pain thresholds to men.  We just see pain often as unnecessary and try to avoid it!

The Female Monthly Cycle

I am not saying that men are unsympathetic to this.  In fact, my trainer is very understanding and offers suggestions and motivation during this time.

But that is not the same as understanding how it feels or experiencing it first hand.

Getting to know and accept your body, in all its functions and feelings is the first step to any healing, change or improvement you are going for.

And in this way we need to get to know more about our cycles, our hormones, our energy, our feelings and emotions and what goes on inside and not just brush it to the side.

‘The menstrual cycle is the most basic, earthy cycle we have. Our moon cycles and our blood are our connection to the archetypal feminine[1]’, says Dr Christine Northrup in his book Women’s Wisdom, Women’s Bodies.

She goes on to say, “We need not be afraid or think we are sick if our energies and moods naturally ebb for a few days each month. In many parts of India, it’s perfectly acceptable for women to slow down during their periods and rest more. I have come to see that all kinds of stress-related disease, ranging from PMS to osteoporosis, could be lessened a great deal if we simply followed our body’s wisdom once per month.

Once we begin to appreciate our menstrual cycle as part of our inner guidance system, we begin to heal both hormonally and emotionally. There is no doubt that premenstrually, many women feel more inward-directed and more connected to their personal pain and the pain of the world.”

[1] Dr Christine Northrup, Women’s Wisdom, Women’s Bodies http://www.drnorthrup.com/

How a Woman Feels

A woman’s body changes every seven days with the phases of the moon.

So do her emotions.

Did you know our bodies can feel different every day when we awake? Depending on where we are at in our cycles, a woman’s body can feel completely different to the previous day or week before? Men do not experience this.

Our bodies are in constant, rhythmic change, but because so much of this is happening beneath our waking consciousness, we can feel out of control, or ‘all at sea’.

When we begin to notice the pattern of these cycles, their repetitive nature, their connection to nature beyond us, we can begin to feel not like victims unprepared for the weather, but like adventurers of days gone by, who navigate by nature— the pull of the tides, the placing of the stars and the gathering storm clouds.

Often we can feel overwhelmed and confused by the seeming turbulence of our bodies and unpredictability of our moods.

The patriarchal society and programming that Dr Christine Northrup describes in Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom has a lot to do with how you think about your body and care for yourself.

When I say patriarchal society and programming, I’m referring to the belief that the masculine ways of being (and doing) are superior to the feminine ways of being (and doing). This has been a part of the world’s culture for thousands of years. And after 5,000 years of patriarchal programming, it’s no surprise that women get sick in the uniquely female areas of their bodies.

Anne Wilson Schaef calls it, “The original sin of being born female.” This refers back to the Bible story about Adam and Eve… God banished Adam and Eve from the Garden of Eden and declared that Eve would bring forth children in pain and suffering, because she tempted Adam. This kind of programming teaches women—at the deepest, deepest level—that the processes of her female body, including the menstrual cycle, pregnancy, labor, and menopause, are burdens to be endured.

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Women Through Circles

Circles have the power to transform the world—woman by woman, circle by circle! A circle is a gathering in the form of actually sitting in a circle and following general guidelines that facilitate authentic conversation. The circle form is nonhierarchical—everyone’s input holds equal importance. It fosters listening to and learning from every participant.

It is with all this research and theory that apply to helping my tribe of goddesses around the world.

I have spent more than 10 years researching, creating and focusing on making health, fitness and weightloss easy, fun, effective and durable for women.  Transformation strong of body, mind and character.

What is the answer?

We are living in unprecedented times of stress, we have an excess of information and expectations, demands, responsibilities, multiple jobs, family demands, you name it. And more often than not, to shelter ourselves away from the monotony we turn to unhealthy habits — (name your vice!)

But it should be the other way around: the more cornered we get by elements that can throw us off balance, the more committed to our health and wellbeing we must be.

Health is synonymous with success, in any shape or form or version. Healthy people thrive in every aspect of their lives — it is the foundation of our greatest achievements, of confidence, of limitless creativity and of longstanding relationships. When you feel good, you not only create a force field of positivity but you become a magnet for the things you wish to manifest in your life.

Making healthy choices and caring for yourself de-clutters your mind and makes space for the projects, people and places you’ve always wished you’d have time for and makes you a happy, healthy woman with a happy and healthy family and life.

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A WOMAN’S BODY AS BOTH WARRIOR & GODDESS

The concept of the Warrior Goddess has been around for a very long time, maybe not coined in exactly this way until the writing of one of my favorite authors, HeatherAsh Amara on Goddess and Toltec learning in her highly acclaimed book Warrior Goddess Training.

But when we talk of a Warrior Goddess several images come to mind from Xena Warrior Princess in popular culture to ancient Celtic goddesses of The Gamorra, Freya and of course Athena.

Each ancient civilization has their strong woman figure from Cleopatra to Froudo the wife of Odin to

And if you Google Warrior Goddess now a days you are often faced with semi clad voluptuous women wielding shields and spears.


So why would we want to be a Warrior Goddess and have a Warrior Goddess’ Body?

There is a new revolution for women, from being focused on others needs to focusing on our own. Serving from an empty vessel takes its toll. When we bring our attention back to rediscovering who we are, from the inside out and understanding our body and our soul, then we can truly step into our own genuine and authentic power and be able to follow our passions and desires.

We discover true strength. Strength of mind, body and character and our inner warrior goddess.

Warrior energy

Since we are all a mix of masculine and feminine energy, we can benefit from a clear understanding of the highest vision of masculine energy, whilst in the section we will explore the feminine.

The displays of masculine energy are most raw in ancient, more primal societies, where the man was the keeper of boundaries, the hunter and provider of food, the physical strength behind manufacture and the imagination of the innovator and creator.
The masculine energy is like fire. When it is used properly it is creative, practical, benevolent and visionary. When misused it can burn and destroy in egoic anger and/or resentment.
Men and women need this masculine energy as much as they need the feminine energy. Without one or the other we are incomplete.

Harnessing this energy gives us the confidence, focus and determine to see things through and gives us our power.

Goddess energy

Goddess energy is a creative flow of unconditional love, self-love, self-acceptance, inner wisdom coupled with passion and pleasure.

These energies are within us and when out of balance can affect us by simply having us feel out of whack to the extreme of illness and disease, often in our female body parts.

[Related article: What does it mean to be a Warrior Goddess?]

 

What is the answer? A Female centric cyclic programme that takes into account the cycles, hormones and struggles faced only by women to focus on getting lean, strong and curvy and a body that is the vessel for life in all its challenges and adventures.

Embracing the plant based, gluten free, dairy formula with intermittent fasting which supports the body in the building of lean muscle.

Find out more about The Warrior Goddess Body Book and it’s accompanying 28 Day Programme:

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Lisa Barwise

Author Lisa Barwise

Hi, I'm Lisa. I consider myself a Wellness Alchemist, the catalyst in the transformation of Strong Women around the world. Strong of mind, body and character.

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